I’m just going to come out and say it. We stand in our own way far more than other people.
Yeah, I said it. It’s the truth and you need to hear it.
In the quest to build great companies and become these strong, independent, fierce businesswomen, we often stand in our own way. Success is rarely achieved solo. Wait, let me fix that. Business success is rarely achieved solo. There is not one person I can think of who reached high levels of success without the help of others. When starting out, sure, we want to wear that cape and be that chick who can do it all. But at what point does that cape begin to choke?
I’m here to tell you that until you shift your thinking and step down off your ego, you will not thrive. You’ll survive, but not thrive, and especially not grow. As a Black/Latina woman, pride has been a painful teacher for me over the years. I used to think I was superwoman. I wore my cape proudly. I got a high off the accolades and compliments from people. I used negative comments and doubts of others to fuel me. “I’ll show them” is what my mantra used to be. And I did pretty good for a while. I was doing it all. Until I wasn’t. Eventually cracks in my foundation formed, and before I knew it, I was free falling.
Here’s the best piece of advice a mentor gave me when I finally crashed. “Accept and acknowledge your weakness and shortcomings, then hire people to fill in those gaps”. That’s when I had my “holy shit” moment. All this time, I was so set in my ways and determined to build my business my way. All the while not realizing that my ego and bravado was costing me. I had something to prove. But the funny thing is I didn’t have anything to prove to anyone. I had accomplished so much. But I never stopped to think about how things could be if I would turn the reigns over to competent people. Do you realize where Mogul Chix, hell where I could be had I not been so stubborn?
Well, it’s not too late for you. It’s not even too late for me. I’ve made the proper adjustments and sent my ego packing. Here are some lessons I had to learn that I hope you’ll reflect on and take to heart.
You shouldn’t BE the business, even if your name is the brand.
You can’t run a high figure company with no team. Invest in help.
Ask for help before you need it. A closed mouth don’t get fed.
It’s almost impossible to scale and grow if your company remains owner-reliant.
You have to take risks and make investments in the things and people that will get you to the next level.
It won’t kill you to delegate to people who are great at their jobs.
Don’t let ego, pride and silence be the destruction of your company.
What lessons have you learned and where do you think you could stand to improve? Share below in the comments. I’d love to hear from you.
Til next time,
Founder, Mogul Chix, LLC
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Adrienne Graham is the Founder of Mogul Chix, LLC (www.mogulchix.com), a global company and community for female founders and women entrepreneurs. She works with female-founded companies to grow, scale & making them investment ready. She is a CEO, investor, advisor, author and serial entrepreneur. She provides Strategic Business Growth advisory services to companies with high growth potential to assist clients in creating processes and strategies to effectively scale, run, grow and position their business for success. Adrienne is an author, serial entrepreneur and avid techie dedicated to promoting inclusive diversity in the tech, VC and startup community. She is steadily building her empire one company at a time. She was a Mentor for the Straight Shot Accelerator in Omaha, NE, which helped guide startups into successfully launched ventures.